tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post7770861249414193159..comments2024-03-05T21:49:50.340-08:00Comments on Thoughts Galore: Whhhhhhhyyyyyyyyy?jujuqtpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02826934010090393804noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-56170347469136874872007-01-08T18:41:00.000-08:002007-01-08T18:41:00.000-08:00Oh dear, I didn't realise that nail biting is equa...Oh dear, I didn't realise that nail biting is equated with underlying stress, which they might feel about going to school and stuff. <br />Inez already has nail polish on her nails, when else can she wear it? It's a treat for good behaviour, and also indirectly to stop her from biting her nails. But she forgets that she has nice nail polish on and still bites her nails. <br />Will check out the recommended website. Mika can't wear polish, so what can we do with boys? <br />Most times, with Mika, it's a matter of Monkey sees, monkey does. Other times, he has a mind of his own. At the moment, everytime he puts his fingers in, i just pull them out.jujuqtpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826934010090393804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-36704784552556512782007-01-03T22:51:00.000-08:002007-01-03T22:51:00.000-08:00Ntah la Juju, it's difficult sket certain issues w...Ntah la Juju, it's difficult sket certain issues with my parents. They can be quite the sensitive one. I get frustrated just thinking about it all over again. I now forbid my daughter to sleep over at my parents if she's not going to listen to me. I teach my kids the hierarchy - ie you have to listen to Allah first, then Rasulullah, then Mommy, then Daddy, then only Grandparents. So sometimes if Mommy says different things from Tok or Tok Wan, must listen to Mommy first. She kinda gets the concept. But on this thumbsucking issue it's a matter of 'gian'. You know if someone is trying to stop smoking and you sumbat a lighted cigarette in his mouth, mana tak addicted balik. Betul tak? ;)<br /><br />Anyways bout the nail biting, I spose you can say its similar to thumbsucking since both are a form of 'pacifier' for the kids. But nail biting is more of a sign of nervousness. There may be an underlying cause that you might want to explore. Kids suck thumb mainly to calm/comfort themselves. Nail biting is more of a form of stress release.<br /><br />Check out this website on <a href="http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/five_habits.html">Your Child's Habits</a>.<br /><br />But mostly these habits are usually a phase je. They outgrow it in time. Meantime you can try with Inez by bringing her for a Mom daughter day out for a manicure. They have ones for kids. So that may encourage Inez to stop biting her nails, otherwise those pretty nails will be spoiled. Try that out and see if it works. :)The Hand That Holds The Quill...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10315050399251921618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-75320094594767795882007-01-03T22:49:00.000-08:002007-01-03T22:49:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.The Hand That Holds The Quill...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10315050399251921618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-64646369236455045612007-01-02T23:24:00.000-08:002007-01-02T23:24:00.000-08:00That is difficult, to not have the support you nee...That is difficult, to not have the support you need from your own parents. And you can't say to your kids that they can't listen to their grandparents. Poor you.<br /><br />Have a friend who moved out coz she was staying with her folks. They gave him everything he wanted and more. She couldn't understand why and how they could treat him so differently from how they treated their own children - them coz they turned out all right. <br /><br />They say if you can't move the mountain, you got to move around it. I guess there must be other ways to handle this like. We simply have to get a little more creative. Hmmm, howzabout we praise our kids in front of our parents and say that everytime they don't suck their thumb, grandpa and grandma will give them a treat. That makes grandpa and grandma the good guys and they will encourage your kids not to do it. If that doesn't work, then we'll have to think of something else.<br /><br />As for me, I'd like to know how you got your kids to stop thumbsucking. My kids like to bite their nails. Lebih kurang laa tu. Once I got so upset with Mika, I put pepper on his fingers. I didn't expect him to touch his eyes. So the plan backfired in a bad way. I tried to squeeze lemon on his fingers but he liked the taste. <br /><br />All of us, parents included beat his finger lightly and pull it out of his mouth but it goes back in. Inez does the same. Mika sees, Mika does too.jujuqtpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826934010090393804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-5401461907883648862006-12-31T05:14:00.000-08:002006-12-31T05:14:00.000-08:00Some things I just can't 'talk' to my parents abou...Some things I just can't 'talk' to my parents about. Just today I found out that my parents told my daughter that she's allowed to suck her thumb if she sleeps over at their place. And apparently during this school hols when she slept over at my parents, my girl has been allowed to suck her thumb! Urgh! I've been 'training' my girl to get off the thumbsucking, and has been successful until now. Lately I find Airis sucking her thumb again esp at nights. Tension betul! Like I said, my parents aren't as supportive as yours. I have talked to them and still when it comes to these things they take it as 'perkara remeh' and purposely go out of their way to contradict me behind my back. Susah Ju...The Hand That Holds The Quill...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10315050399251921618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-26682569323736447562006-12-28T20:40:00.000-08:002006-12-28T20:40:00.000-08:00Of course it's easier to scream, but if we scream,...Of course it's easier to scream, but if we scream, Supernanny Jo Frost says we have lost control of the situation. For someone who doesn't have kids of her own, she's right. So I am trying my hardest to hang on to my self control. She also says if we are really angry, we should leave the room to calm ourselves first.<br />One of these days, I'd like to summarize Supernanny's tips. It's another book which I recommend to parents everywhere. Apparently I read somewhere that Hugh Jackman is also a fan of Supernanny. <br />Anyway, I suppose you have to talk to your parents about it. I remember when I first started toilet training Mikael, my mom always put diapers on him when he's at her place coz my dad is very particular about cleanliness and my mom tak larat laa sebenarnya to clean up the mess. But I told her the poor boy's confused. One moment, he can pee in his diaper, and at other times he has to do it in the toilet. Although we do take off his diaper and take him to the toilet, he doesn't want to go. At last, Mom agreed to take off his diapers and had to be on alert at all times; and then only the toilet training worked and Mika wears only underwear now even to bed at night.jujuqtpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826934010090393804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-9059300518977695002006-12-28T19:59:00.000-08:002006-12-28T19:59:00.000-08:00:) You're lucky to have support like that from you...:) You're lucky to have support like that from your parents. Makes things all the more easier to have a common understanding like that amongst the adults. I am not so lucky in tht aspect. My parents like to contradict me sometimes and my child gets confused in the process. Anyways, the experts say that whining is just a child's way of testing to see if he could get his way in a particular situation. The best solution thus far is still to ignore them when they use the whiny tactics. My prob is of course sometimes it's easier to scream at them to stop than just to ignore. ;) Takes practice to turn a deaf ear...The Hand That Holds The Quill...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10315050399251921618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-26750793014320644392006-12-28T17:30:00.000-08:002006-12-28T17:30:00.000-08:00So far, it's been two days. It seems he has quit t...So far, it's been two days. It seems he has quit the whining. Everybody ignored him, my mom, my dad, myself, my hubby, everybody. For two days, he was a crybaby. I guess he realised that whining wasn't working. He has changed his tactics though. My mom was saying that yesterday he was stepping on some toys, so my mom tapped him lightly on his leg. He hung to my mom's legs, and in case it wasn't obvious, he told my mom, "I am hugging you, Nana." My mom said to me, "How do you scold someone who is hugging you?" LOL <br />"Your son is also very sly in his own way." She added. She also said that if it's something big and serious, he will still get his dues. :)jujuqtpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826934010090393804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32319803.post-8416062864979607142006-12-27T20:56:00.000-08:002006-12-27T20:56:00.000-08:00Tell me about it Ju. I pun tak tahan whining. And ...Tell me about it Ju. I pun tak tahan whining. And my girl is STILL doing it from time to time.The Hand That Holds The Quill...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10315050399251921618noreply@blogger.com